How to Identify if Your Spouse is a Narcissist: Key Signs and Behaviors

Posted by David Jacks | May 24, 2024

In today's world, the term "narcissist" is often used loosely, but true narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a serious condition that can have significant impacts on a relationship. If you suspect your spouse may exhibit narcissistic traits, it is important to understand the key signs and behaviors commonly associated with this disorder. Please note that we are not doctors, and this article is not intended to diagnose anyone. These are common symptoms that can be found through various resources and are provided from an attorney's perspective to help protect our clients.

Understanding Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is characterized by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in various contexts. It is crucial to recognize these signs early, as they can severely affect your emotional and psychological well-being.

Key Signs of a Narcissistic Spouse

1. Grandiose Sense of Self-Importance A spouse with narcissistic traits often has an inflated sense of their own importance. They may exaggerate their achievements and talents, expecting to be recognized as superior without commensurate accomplishments. This grandiosity can manifest in various ways, such as constantly seeking attention and admiration from others.

2. Lack of Empathy One of the most telling signs of narcissism is a lack of empathy. Individuals with narcissistic tendencies are unable or unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others. This lack of empathy can lead to cold and uncaring behaviors, making it difficult to form genuine, supportive relationships.

3. Need for Excessive Admiration Narcissistic individuals require constant admiration and validation. They may become frustrated or angry if they do not receive the attention they believe they deserve. This need for admiration often leads them to seek out and engage in behaviors designed to draw attention to themselves.

4. Sense of Entitlement A narcissistic spouse often has a sense of entitlement, expecting special treatment and compliance with their wishes. They may become impatient or angry when they do not receive what they believe is their due. This sense of entitlement can lead to manipulative and exploitative behaviors.

5. Manipulative Behaviors Narcissists are skilled at manipulation. They often use charm, flattery, and deceit to achieve their goals. They may also use guilt and shame to control their partners. This manipulative behavior can be subtle or overt, but it is always self-serving.

6. Constant Need for Validation Narcissists have an insatiable need for validation and approval. They often seek out praise and compliments, and may become angry or depressed if they do not receive the affirmation they crave. This constant need for validation can lead to unstable and tumultuous relationships.


Recognizing these signs of narcissistic personality disorder in your spouse is the first step towards understanding and addressing the challenges in your relationship. If you believe your spouse may exhibit narcissistic traits, it is important to seek professional guidance and support.

At The Jacks Law Group, we understand the complexities of relationships involving narcissistic individuals. Our experienced attorneys are here to help you navigate the legal and emotional challenges of divorcing a narcissist. Contact us today for a consultation and take the first step towards reclaiming your life. 702-834-6300.

Disclaimer: This blog post is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal or medical advice. For personalized legal assistance, please contact The Jacks Law Group at 702-834-6300.

About the Author

David Jacks

David Jacks is a seasoned attorney and founder of The Jacks Law Group, PLLC, in Las Vegas and Henderson, Nevada. Born and raised in Las Vegas, he served as an Animal Care Specialist in the U.S. Army before transitioning to a career in law. He earned his BA in Political Science from UNLV and his JD from Arizona Summit Law School. David’s practice focuses on family law and personal injury cases, including divorce, child custody, and car accidents. He is recognized for his professional excellence and has received numerous awards. David is actively involved in the legal community and various professional associations.

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